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Have you ever been desperate for some alone time? Life gets hectic and sometimes you really need some time on your own. That’s why prioritising “me” time is key to looking after your mental health, and solo dates are a great place to start. I know you’re probably wondering how the hell am I supposed to ‘date myself’, sounds very weird. Stick around and I’ll tell you, and also give you some solo date ideas that you’ll actually love.
WHAT IS SOLO DATING?
Solo dating is literally dating yourself and having alone time to do things you enjoy. Yes, that means totally on your own!
No company, interruptions or distractions.
You can spend time alone doing something relaxing, creative, exhilarating, indulgent or spontaneous. Without having to cater to someone else’s interests, time or dislikes – it’s all about you.
HERE’S WHY YOU NEED TO TRY SOME SOLO-DATE IDEAS
Now you may think going out and doing things by yourself sounds pretty lonely. But think about all the times you’ve wanted to do something, or go somewhere, but missed out because you had no one to go with.
You’ve probably missed out on so many great experiences because of it.
So why should you continue to miss out on things?
There is no rule to say that you have to do things with other people. You can enjoy those same things on your own.
Aside from that, dating yourself has so many other benefits:
- You have time to destress and put work, home and general life stress to one side, and enjoy your own company.
- Doing things on your own will allow you to experience new things.
- You don’t need to compromise to suit others.
- Do all the things you dreamed of doing and tick them off your list.
- You can really get to know yourself.
- You’ll learn to love yourself and be comfortable on your own.
- Self dating also means you can dedicate time to self-care and self-love.
11 SOLO DATE IDEAS THAT YOU’LL DEFINITELY ENJOY
1. GO TO THE SPA
Now this is probably my favourite solo date idea! Who doesn’t love a bit of indulgence and relaxation?
Whether it’s a spa day or a spa weekend, put it in your diary and get it booked.
If you don’t want to spend too much money, you can also create an at home spa experience, which is just as relaxing.
- Light some scented candles or put some calming essential oils in a diffuser
- Put on a face mask
- Run yourself a bubble bath
- Drink something relaxing – it could be green tea, hot chocolate or a cheeky glass of wine
- If you really want to go for it, get a foot massager. I love this one
- Don’t forget your fluffy robe and slippers
2. TAKE A RELAXING BATH
If you don’t want to spend too much money, a relaxing bath is the way to go.
Get your CBD bath bombs ready, light some candles and put on your favourite playlist or audiobook.
A hot bath will help you unwind and release tension in your muscles.
3. GO ON A NATURE WALK
Most of us have parks or scenic places close to where we live.
What better way to enjoy your own company than whilst you’re out in nature.
You can go on an early morning walk when the sun comes up or a late afternoon walk before it gets dark.
I’m quite lucky to have a park and a lot of greenery where I live, so I can take a quick walk when I need a moment for myself.
Going for a solo walk is a great way to connect with nature, clear your mind and get your daily steps in.
Think about where you live, and where you might enjoy walking for alone time.
4. TAKE YOURSELF ON A SOLO DATE PICNIC
To go a step further from a walk, take yourself to your local park for a picnic.
Pack a nice lunch or buy something from your supermarket, or cafe and enjoy.
Don’t forget to bring your blanket, a good book, and your headphones. Once you’ve finished eating, chill for a little while, enjoy your surroundings and pop your earphones in to listen to an audiobook or some good tunes.
5. GO TO THE CINEMA
There have been so many occasions when I’ve wanted to see a movie but nobody else was interested. If you’re excited to see a new film and have no one to go with, go on your own.
Get all the snacks you like and enjoy the film. Even better, you won’t have to share snacks with anyone else.
6. GO TO A FLOWER OR FARMERS’ MARKET
We have a few flower markets in London. Do a quick internet search for flower or farmers’ markets in your area and take yourself down there to shop or browse.
It’s such a fun solo day out!
Not only is it an enjoyable way to get some light exercise, you can also come home with a lovely bunch of flowers and some tasty treats.
7. GO TO A MUSEUM OR EXHIBITION
I love museums and good exhibitions in galleries. I used to miss out on so many exhibitions because I didn’t want to go on my own.
Or, if I ended up going with people, they were uninterested or in a rush to leave. Avoid all of that by going on your own.
If there’s a museum you’d like to visit or an exhibition coming up, get yourself down there on your own.
8. TAKE A CLASS
If you’re someone who enjoys learning new things, sign up for a class. Whether it’s a one-off art class, or a one week cooking programme.
Even though you’ll be going on your own, you’ll meet new people who have similar interests to you.
There are so many classes available, check out your local newspaper or google “classes near me”, to see if there is anything in your area that you’d like to try.
If you can’t find any classes near you or would prefer to do a class from home, there are so many amazing courses and classes available online, such as-
Not sure what to do? Get some inspiration from this post on things to do when you’re bored at home.
9. TAKE A DRIVE
When I used to drive, I loved just getting in my car and driving. No destination in mind. I would put on my favourite playlist and cruise around and get lost in my thoughts.
10. TAKE YOURSELF ON A FANCY DINNER DATE
I used to think eating out on your own was the most terrifying thing ever! But as I’ve matured and eaten out alone a few times, I’ve realised it’s not scary at all.
If you find eating out alone too intimidating, start off with having a coffee on your own in a cafe or coffee shop.
Once you do that a few times, you’ll feel more and more comfortable.
Then you can take the next step, get dolled up like you would if you were going out with friends or a partner, and take yourself out to a nice restaurant for lunch or dinner.
11. MAKE YOURSELF A CANDLE LIT DINNER
If you’re still not keen on the idea of going out for a meal on your own, make yourself a meal.
Make your favourite dish and desert and set the mood. Light some candles, pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy.
HOW TO PUT THESE SOLO DATE IDEAS INTO PRACTICE
If you’re still reading along, you’re probably coming around to the idea of spending time alone and dating yourself.
But how on earth can you actually put it into practice? Here are a few tips.
- Dedicate a specific day and time to take yourself out. Put it in your schedule, do it regularly and stick to it.
- Do things that match your mood – All the ideas on this list won’t suit all moods or even weather. So pick out solo date ideas that make the most sense. If you’ve had a really stressful week at work and you need some downtime, a spa day might be the perfect thing to do.
- Start off easy – If the idea of going out alone terrifies you, start off by doing something simple, like taking a walk or going for a coffee. Once you’ve done that, you can work your way up to something else, like going to eat on your own.
- Be brave – Like I previously mentioned, going out to do things on your own can really push you out of your comfort zone and scare the hell out of you. If you struggle to take the first step, remind yourself you’re brave and there is nothing weird about doing things on your own. You’ve got this!
Are you going to give any of these solo date ideas a try?
I hope I’ve been convincing and made you realise how many things you can enjoy on your own.
Spending time on your own and taking yourself on dates is an amazing form of self-care.
So take a deep breath and get going.
You’ll realise how much you love your own company, learn new things, meet some amazing people and have some great experiences.
Have you taken yourself on any dates recently? What did you get up to?
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